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⚠️ I'll never forget this conversation with a client. It went something like this. 💔 Her Ex and she had split a couple of months before and they had begun to talk about money and their company. The one she said was built on the understanding that her husband would travel away and work and she would look after their children full time. So she said this conversation went something like this... "you did nothing for the company, you didn't work, it was me that worked, you just stayed at home. It is my name not yours that everyone knows, it's my company, not yours" "but she said, if I had not looked after our lives, supporting you and our children full time whilst you were away for months on end, you would not have had the time and space to build it.". Her Ex laughed in her face and told her she did nothing and she was not having a f*cking penny of it (or what was left of it). In that moment she said the last 16 years had been ripped out from underneath her. She felt worthless. She bit her tongue, she turned away she said so he didn't see her tears and she vowed to herself that she would, one day build something so extraordinary from out of his unkind words. She also chose to see these years alone with the children as a gift. She just had to have the support to find the confidence to do what she wanted. So she had a choice - her freedom was hers by making her own choice to rise strong or drown in his anger and unkindness with her thoughts. Are you ready to make the choice too, is it time to turn the anger you have inside and use it as your strength? 🌟🌟🌟🌟 To have a chat with me at my expense (link in the bio) only if you are truly ready to become your own Phoenix rising 🔥
A 💥💛 POP 💥💛 of colour into a January day. Wear your brightest cheeriest and happy clothes. Consciously choose something bright to wear to 'lift' how you are feeling. Or try something different like wear bright pink lipstick 💄 all day - don't forget to reapply! Paint your nails a splash of coral so you catch that splash of colour. Keep your vibe higher with colour and if it is sitting and looking at for 5mins a beautiful phoro of a sunset, flowers or a beach that lifts you then do that. NOTICE how you feel, how do you respond to colour? Wear your finest, have aome fun, it doesn't all have to be so grey 💛💞❤💙💜💚💖 #tbt remember do what lifts YOU up not what anyone else is doing. 💛💛💛💛 For more support, kindness and positivity come join Divorce & Beyond - Time to Thrive FB group, link in the bio 💛💛💛💛
TRUST your intuition, this is your superpower.
You have a choice - stay where you are - overwhelmed stressed frustrated lonely confused resenting guilty grieving fearful victim (arghhhh hated that one) and pi**ed off with yourself for not being in control in your divorce. It begins with you, it's you owning your divorce... it's NOT about your Ex. Want to be this woman? Links 🔗🔗 are in the bio to book a 20min pre-coaching programme chat or a 90min Divorce Clinic session OR you can... Carry on swiping hoping it will all magically go away and you'll get a great night's sleep, oh and your anxiety will disappear overnight (whilst you're sleeping well) and you can go back to 'normal'... If divorce coaching is something that you think might help you - do book, living as you are (and I know) is not that much fun 💛 💰💲💸💳 Oh and let's talk money... coaching with me is a one or two week holiday that you might not have been on last year that recently saved a client 100k. She and her husband can still speak and don't hate each other and they can coparent well... Decisions decisions...
My published quote in the Spears500. Mindfulness and kindness, being more aware and conscious are good foundations for a better divorce experience. Your divorce is here to teach you strength, resilience, compassion and forgiveness. It may NOT feel like this, far from it but it asks you to dig deeply into everything. Yes!! That's a degree in learning !!! Plus childcare, homeschooling, own business... do you need any more conflict? Take a moment, a deep breath and check whether this is what you want and how you want to live moving forwards. BTW I didn't, I was exhausted, sad, lonely and was tired of fighting and putting fires 🔥 out each day. How are you going to create a calmer wiser space in your divorce? 💛
💥💛💥 Just so bloody proud of myself and @divorcegoddess for the journey we’ve been on and are still on – because it’s going to be so big! 5️⃣0️⃣0️⃣ I’m in the #Spears500 (ultra high net worth directory) as Divorce Support – Best of Breed which I am so delighted about. Especially as I promote and encourage a kinder, more mindful and empowering divorce support service, which is less financially and emotionally destructive for you and those you love! 💛 This is what Divorce Goddess is all about – taking the concept of thriving, healing and doing it kindly and changing the face of divorce – this is taking it properly to market! REMEMBER we can all do it – why? Because you always have a choice and “Your divorce is about you NOT your Ex”. ☎️ Want to know more? Book in a call on the link in my Bio and let’s have a chat. Thank you for all your support and to the wonderful award-winning lawyer @divorcewithadifference who nominated me. (Whi guested on the Divorce Goddess podcast How to Choose Your Lawyer on itunes or spotify link in the bio)
➡️ 💥 Feeling out of sorts, discombobulated, lost? 🌟 When life dishes up lostness, overwhelm and fear... know this, you may feel you don't always have a choice - BUT you do - about how you think, what you say and how you show up for yourself. 🌟 Which is why it is never so more important that you put a plan in place for the year ahead - yes - it's time to believe! 🌟 🌟 Do you need a plan in life? Are you worried about living without one or having achievable goals (even if you are homeschooling again, managing anxiety, worried about the future financially)? 🌟🌟 I have a couple more places available on the My Shining 2021 Manifest Workshop this evening 7.30pm - 9pm with a 2021 plan in a 25+ page workbook, bonus pdfs and meditations. For information and to book LINK 🔗 in the bio.
Does a sunset make you stop? Life is full of the unexpected, but as sure as each day ends there is always a new beginning, another chance to make something out of a tough situation, challenge or relationship. Whether it is an agreement to 'project manage' your divorce better, give each other more space if you're cohabiting or sit down and put a plan together to homeschool. Lockdown is here, a bit like divorce - not great on so many levels, but an opportunity to do better, reduce conflict by choosing not to backbite, say those inflammatory words and roll your eyes and find another way to live differently. Accepting and living with an openess to noticing what triggers you and choosing to respond calmly rather than resisting and fighting can be the difference. There is currently a FREE Taster Mindfulness & Meditation course in my bio to help you change and adopt new habits.
Lovely words for more separate times, from those we love and support to those who ove and support us. We can do this "it is what it is" whatever this even means anymore 😂
There is nothing like a first day back "drop into your inbox" words that make you smile!! I love everyone of my clients, many have become good friends. How blessed !! All of us to know, work with and be able to laugh with each other! 💛
Are you up for a Money Manifest Challenge? 2️⃣1️⃣ Days to be exact STARTING tomorrow 🐒 Week 1 - Calming those pesky Money Mind Monkeys 🐒 🌟 Week 2 - Clarity with tools to help you manage money better 🌟 💰 Week 3 - Confidence to take action and grow your money 💰 It's FREE for one time only (before it joins the Membership vault or available to purchase separately). If you want IN join the Divorce & Beyond - Time to Thrive private FB group (link in the Bio) 💞💰💞💰💞💰💞💰💞💰💞💰
Money and Divorce is rarely the walk in the park. I was interviewed last week for @youmagazine (get me 😆) about DIY divorces. Whilst I'm all for believing and supporting female empowerment, doing things ourselves and saving money, I believe that a professional check is worth it's weight. Call it halfpenny of tar for your future ship. A close family member didn't check, actually refused to as they believed they would be okay. There is no pension, a paid off house or future to hold them in any degree of comfort. I'm not advocating a fight, merely due diligence. As others mentioned on a post in my Group (link in Bio), please invest in yourself with a professional. Please lay your foundations for your future, even if it feels scary and at the time too much hassle 📑💰📑 The 21 day Money Manifest Challenge starting Monday 4th Jan in here is all about doing the work to attract abundance. Merely thinking you'll be okay and not taking responsibility for finance is a clear and direct f*** you to the Universe. More details in a Live tomorrow 🌟🌟
🙋♀️ So excited to be sharing this workshop to close this year down with love for the lessons, learnings and challenges. 💛 Live on Mon 28th Dec 7.30pm - 9pm GMT. We have a lovely gathering already and want to encourage more of you to gift yourself this opportunity and walk into 2021 with a calm, clear and purposeful head on your lovely shoulders. 🌈 You get the REPLAY plus a free Bonus Resource pack for 2021 LINK is in the bio 💫💫💫💫💫💫💝
Pre-sea swim with my gorgeous girl💞 #mumsanddaughters #boxingday and gifted a rainbow for our efforts 🌈🌊🌈💞
💥CONFIDENCE💥 the third 3️⃣ pillar of my programme beginning 13th January (DM me to register your interest) Always wondered why so many successful people get up, serve their communities and help other people make the changes they need to make? They reconnect to who they are on a journey of self discovery so they fully know and understand their own power through powerful daily practices that are integrated into this 6 week programme. You'll have access to all the tools for life with regular updates and a private membership group to keep you motivated and accountable. For more info and to get on the waitlist DM me for details.
Start the week! What is working, what is not and what are you going to change? 😎 Definition of insanity is doing the same thing over again and expecting a different outcome. 📸 Time to change your dating profile pictures, your text, drill down to what you want rather than what you think your ideal date wants. 🙈 Why? Because that's not you 💥💥❤ be you because everyone else is taken!! 🚩🚩🚩 if it doesn't feel right it isn't. Your body is your best barometer so listen. For more on this head over to my bio link for a quick clip with Kimi from @worththewar to find out the how and why ❤💥❤
I cannot wait to share with you a beautiful path through pain and conflict to support and empower you through this time. And for you to know you are enough through and beyond your divorce
If it ain't working, - being mean to or thinking things are going to change with your Ex.. and they really don't care as much as you want them to... What the f**k are you doing lovely? Use your energy for you, for building you, caring for you, getting you down the gym, for getting yourself work and money, keeping your juice for you, not them ❤❤❤❤❤ 💪 🤸♀️ ✅
😎 I'm talking CLARITY today. The second element of my programme. 🌫 Divorce fog, overwhelm, confusion around who to trust, including yourself. It's a thing, it's real and it is exhausting. 🌠 The never ending nights and mornings of fear, meetings, dicuments and Friday lawyer letters... all piling in. 🏘 Demands to rehome yourself and your children, sort your worldly chattels, work out your finances. Where do you start? How do you get clearer, begin seeing the wood for the trees... find 💡CLARITY💡 So you can start living again, laughing again, looking forward to waking up, knowing you have a plan of what you are going to do (even if the $h*t hits the fan). Those days are real and life is uncertain anyway. By the end of the 6 week programme you will have a clear plan of action to move yourself forward in the area of your life you are stuck on. You will be clearer on how to deal with the unexpected triggers coming up from your divorce, your Ex and the fear 🐒 monkeys messing with your head. You will be able to rebalance yourself, grow your resilience and relight and wake up your inner funny - the magical you. It's time to start trusting yourself again ❤ ✅ Your divorce is about you, not your Ex.✅ 💡 To get on the Waitlist and get access first, sign up to my Weekly Love note coming out Monday link in my bio ❤ If you want to find out more see you in there 😎🤸♀️
I wrote these words a few years ago. Thanks @wordporn & @goodreads 🙏💛 for picking them up. Do I regret getting a divorce? No. Have I been able to let my divorce anger go? Yes. Has my divorce defined my life? Yes. Has my divorce defined me? Yes. But not in the way I thought... I am stronger I am my own person I do things I never thought I could I have learnt resilience I can be lonely and it's okay I don't get triggered by my Ex I am not afraid Are you going through separation or divorce? Are you tired of feeling angry? Want to get to where you want to go but are stuck in conflict and can't move on? I help people move out of conflict, drop their emotional baggage so their divorce doesn't define them. Book in for a Divorce Clinic 90mins or start your journey with my Calm Clarity Confidence™ programme. 🔥 Start 2021 strong 🔥 Do not be afraid 🔥 If money mindset is a thing it's in there too 🔥 Investing in you is where you begin For a 20min chat click the link in the bio.
Delighted to be filmed for the Kingston Courier on How to keep a positive house during lockdown (video link in Bio). Tips that are good too for parents going through divorce, feeling isolated and this stuff is all free! Sometimes it is the simplest things in life 💛 #kingstonuponthames
Leaving this with you 🤩
💛 Are you in the eye of the storm? Your little boat looking for a port and your navigation system all blown to pieces? This is divorce, it can feel out of control, scary and unpredictable. 💛 If you want to find safe harbour in less time, book into my Divorce Clinic 90min 'get it all out on the table', create a plan of action and guidance on moving you forward, before Christmas lands on you 😳 and the kids. Click the link in my Bio to book. There's a few sessions available leading up to Christmas so be brave, gift yourself (and those you love) some self-kindness and book in.💛
🥶🥶 in the winter sea early this morning... loving my new Wild Cat 🐆 swimsuit made brilliantly by @batoko from recycled plastic waste so please do check out this innovative company 🎯 thanks for the tip off @stylingyouwell 😘 it actually keeps me warm (ish) too and fits like a glove 🧤 💙🤩 plus they support @padstowlobster a place I've loved taking my children to over the years. 💙 So "what does cold water swimming do for you" asked a client... Well lots.... ⬇️ 💙 One is the excitement you get before doing something that feels like mischief and a little bit scary 🤣 divorce and getting out of comfort zones is a thing I work with my clients 💙 Another is the social side - turning up on a winter beach with a growing number of othe crazy humans, all saying cheery hellos before they whoop as they get into the sea. Meeting new friendship groups is another big thing in divorce 💙 It's also for me it’s like quick-fire meditating. You go into the zone of being present - or it's going to be more painful - basically the mind monkeys 🐒 have no hope🤣 Mindfulness and meditation was what saved me in my divorce dark days and nights.✨ 💙 When I get into the cold water there’s zero head space for anything except how my body feels in my environment in that exact moment... focus that mind!👊 💙 The adrenaline rushes you get afterwards set my body on fire 🔥🔥 It's a reset, a boost and recharge - and all for freeeeeeee!! 🌍 Plus you're out in nature - let's be having you get over the cold water bit now lovelies 💪 For more on all this sign up to my Weekly Love link on bio or join my FB group. 🔥🔥🔥 You can do anything and you are enough 🔥🔥🔥
There are always upsides to every life kick up the pants (divorce x1000+👊) You've just got to think this way; find the entry point to changing those neural pathways, reclaiming your mind from those pesky mind monkeys🐒 and BELIEVING YOU CAN GET THROUGH THIS! You have the power already inside of you, it's about learning how to access it. Healing the pain (forgiving and releasing that poison trapped inside of you) BUT not forgetting and learning from the life kick up the pants x10000000+ Need help? Check my bio and book in. Join the other clients, moving successfully on and living their best life and YES this is a thing 🤔👊🎯💞 Quote originally from 💛 @mantramagazine 💛
🎯 If you don't ask, you don't get... 💛 and I reckon there are enough of you out there ready to share this post on your stories to make this happen @goop and @gwynethpaltrow to chat to me about compassion, emotional wellbeing and kinder divorce experiences on the Divorce Goddess podcast. 💞🙏 💛 I just feel it would be incredibly helpful to have a high profile person talk with me about having a kinder divorce that benefits the kids and ourselves, our families and friends. Especially as divorce rates are soaring and the opportunity is there to really inspire and support women and men to change the way they view divorce. 💛 I really feel it would be great to get a 🌍 global #influencer on talking about the choices we have to be kinder (to ourselves) and ways to get through stressful situations with self-care and self-kindness. 💛 would love you to Like ❤ and SHARE 💞 that way we have more of a chance to #makeithappen 🙏✨💛
This is the day I reflect on the past week, think about the next and not judge myself for not getting it all done.💛 It's good in life to mark what is working, what is not and remind ourselves (kindly) how we can do better.💛 Having reflective time to regroup thoughts, actions and well, life each week is a kinder way to start.💛 It is easy with 'Divorce fog'🌫 (this could be a recognized condition), hormones 🔥 and pressuring yourself to get it all done now, is probably going to burn you out, deplete your batteries and have you triggered at the drop of a chapeau 🎩 Get organised, reflect, this is self-care and know "it's never too late to do better". 💛 If you are feeling stuck in your divorce or life feels like it's leaving you no space to breathe and you want clarity, to grow confidence in yourself, book in for a 20min chat at my expense and see what we can do to get you moving positively forwards 💛
Leaving this with you ❤ so ease off if you need to ❤ Worrying about the choices of others is wasting your energy, if they're going to do stuff anyway, they will. Especially if they are are or going to be your Ex anytime soon.
💛Remind yourself when things get tough 🙈😔. Get yourself a cup of tea, have a lovely bath, curl up in bed, hug your children and/or your pet 🐾. 💛Notice when your thoughts keep going back to your Ex 🤬 (and their new partner) and come back to building YOU up. 💛Still finding this hard, got 🌫 divorce fog 🌫 and trying to do anything is so difficult...? Click on my bio link and read about how simple my How to Stop Thinking About Your Ex and Break the Habit 👊 🤸♀️ mini course is and then have a go. 💛And if you're not ready to love yourself and feel better you can still continue hating them and living as you are. 💛Tough love is where it's at 🥺and it's all about doing the work... and yep I know you're exhausted x 💛Remember "we all have to do the work to get to where we want to be"... that's ALL of us 💛
💛It was going to be a swim day. Sometimes life doesn't go as we plan it to. 💛We thought let's go and walk anyway and scooted down to the coast. We got blue skies, big waves and glorious sunshine. 💛Notice if the mind monkeys jump in and grow your messed up plans into 'failure' or 'failed day' and turn it around. Flip how you see what has happened and let the thoughts go of 'nothing goes well for me' or 'why does this always happen to me' go. 💛 The weather happens to us all but you have a choice as to how you let disappointments affect you or your day. 💛I found so many hearts on the beach, I'm asking myself... what next???!! 💛💛
SWIPE for past posts and share and tag if you would like to, it's always appreciated :) Below are thoughts on why it's good to 👇👇👇 🚫 STOP telling people more than they need to know 🚫 why? 👇 ______________________________ You know that itch that wont go away? The one that keeps on itching and then you realise after a good scratch that you 'should' have ignored it? 🔥Yes that one!! 😳 _______________________________ Bit like the need to talk about how sh*tty your Ex is to everyone through and beyond divorce... yawn, it's dull, feeds the negative divorce monkeys PLUS grows the energy around him/her. And you rob yourself of your energy... because you're hanging out in his/her backyard. 👉AND when you're talking to your friends you've brought them into his/her backyard as well! 🙈🙈🙈 so... ______________________________ Go a day to start with - if it's your go to convo (notice I said 'IT' rather than he or she...) and just NOT talk about them. Everytime you feel the itch RESIST... don't grow it, you don't need to. It's a temporary path to feeling better, so stay in your backyard, talk about all the good stuff instead (it will be there) and 🚫 STOP telling people more than they need to know 🚫👊👊👊👊👊👊👊👊👊👊👊👊 Feel free to join the Facebook group. There you can share, get inspo and give support to others :) Just search Divorce & Beyond - Time to Thrive on Facebook and be sure to answer the 3 questions 🤗
Feeling the LOVE from so many and I now have a flowershop in my home 💖💐💐💐💐💐💐💐 Thank you to all the gorgeous people on World Kindness Day who make me smile, fill me with joy, hope and love 💖🌍💖