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âMy Divorced Familyâ From the start, we were united in our co-parenting. Together we told the kids we were no longer going to be married. This is not to say it was easy and without challenges. This was difficult for me. It was important the kids knew they were going to be okay. I will forever remember the time their dad and I sat together at a school event. My oldest child came home and said a friend saw us together and thought we were divorced. My child said they are. The friend, whose parents are also divorced, didnât understand why we were talking and sitting together. I told my child that daddy and I are friends and although we are no longer married does not mean that we canât be in the same space together or talk. I explained that everyoneâs family situations with divorce can be different. I am fortunate that my ex-husband and I get along. I try to keep any issues with him separate from the kids. There has been a learning curve. We work on making sure the kids come first and that they know they are loved in both homes. The first drawing I tore the pieces of paper next to the mom and dad. There is a fracture in the family unit, but when you put the paper down, the family is still connected in some capacity. The mother and father can be separated from the whole image and then placed back together when needed. The second drawing is harder. My ex-husband and I wanted open communication about our children. We knew the kids were young and didnât understand a lot. We made sure to explain that this was not their fault, it was okay to cry and be sad. I would let them know that the best thing to come out of our marriage was them. Co-parenting together can be bumpy at times, decisions are not always easily agreed upon, but we work hard on coming up with a resolution that is fair to both of us. We try to be respectful and avoid conflict in front of the children. We are not perfect and mistakes are made. Lessons are learned. I am proud of my family and what I have been able to do, despite going through my own issues from the divorce. It takes a lot of strength to wipe your childrenâs tears along with your own. But I did it and am thankful for the family we are today.
Repost from @divorce.art.heal â˘thought this was a good reminder for today! âHealing & Growingâ Continue working on healing and growing. Learning to take care of me; emotionally and mentally. Itâs not always easy, sometimes itâs stressful, but in order to get to a better place, Iâm doing the work thatâs necessary. Art Materials- colorsticks, newspaper, crayons #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #DivorceForce #divorcecommunity #divorcedonedifferently #divorcechaos #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression
âOne of the most courageous decisions youâll ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting your heart and soulâ- Brigette Nicole. Found @thedivorcemanager  I remember in the beginning having my therapist talk to me about letting go and when I can do that, I would begin the healing process. Boy, I fought that tooth and nail for a very long time. I was not ready. I was too angry, sad, and deflecting my hurt. Even though my divorce was for the best, In my mind I knew that, but my heart hadnât come to terms with it. I eventually was tired of holding onto all these heavy feelings. I was emotionally drained and sâŚlâŚoâŚwâŚlâŚy⌠started to change my perspective. And finally let go. I decided to start focusing less on what went wrong and focus on where I wanted to go. I can have a redo. I can have happiness. I can have an awesome life if I got out of my own way. I learned that I am not in competition with others in letting go and healing. Everyone has their own timeline. I also cannot base my life off what my ex is doing with his. That was a BIG breakthrough. He is on his own journey, separate from mine. Holding onto all the negative feelings was not hurting anyone else but me. So I reached the point where I put my self-care first. I decided to not only emotionally let go but actually live it. It does feel courageous to let go and just be. Art Materials- markers
âLife changes. You lose friends. You lose love. You lose pieces of yourself that you never imagined would be gone. And then, without you even realizing it, these pieces come back. Better friends come along. New love enters. And a stronger, wiser you is staring back in the mirror.â- unknown. Found on @myroadtohealing2019. There are so many elements of this quote that I can relate to. Life does change and when you go through a divorce it can be life altering. You lose pieces of yourself. But⌠there is eventually a shift that happens and healing starts to take place. New people enter your life, you are wiser after learning more about yourself. You have survived things that you once believed you could not. When I look in the mirror today, not only is there a physical difference, as I have finally began to work on a complete lifestyle change, but there is a more independent woman looking back at me. I have worked very hard to reach this place. I have had set backs, meltdowns, feelings of joy and hope. I like this new me and I think she will be sticking around. Art Materials- markers #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
âIf life can remove someone you never dreamed of losing, it can replace them with someone you never dreamt of havingâ- unknown. Although I thought about divorce often, I never uttered the words aloud. I was committed to trying to make my marriage work...despite how unhappy both of us had become. I never thought it would actually happen. And it did. I never thought of my ex-husband not being there. What I love about this quote is the unexpected. I never thought my divorce would become a reality and it is. So whoâs to say the reality of someone else I never dreamt of having is a possibility as well??? Art Materials- markers #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
âRoad Map of Divorceâ I decided to create a roadmap of my divorce journey. I started in the corner at BREAK IN THE FOUNDATION DRIVE. We were functioning as a family but the crack became larger with time. There were four of us, which is represented by the colors. The opening in the lines is the separation that occurred. Next was IN THE CLOUDS ROAD. I felt like the next few steps in the separation/divorce were foggy and I felt out of sorts. This led to BLACK CLOUD DESERT. Between dealing with thyroid cancer and my marriage ending I felt like I had a black cloud hanging above me. Was this all real? I felt alone and broken. As my divorce became finalized, I entered PEAK OF SUNSHINE VALLEY. I was providing as much normalcy as possible for my children. A new routine was beginning and some light was starting to enter my life. Unfortunately, with divorce, you enter ROLLERCOASTER MOUNTAINS. One day you are fine and feeling goodâŚthe next crying uncontrollably and taking 3 steps back. Thankfully, with therapy and being tired of being tired, I started to let go. I began to enter SUNSHINE ARRIVES TERRACE. Yes! I started to focus on me and my self-care. Letting go of anger, sadness, etc. and changing perspective. I finally believed that focusing on what went wrong would no longer change the past, so work on the future. I feel like I was now ready for BUTTERFLY DESTINATION. I am not 100% there but so close! I am spreading my wings and feeling great about it! *What does your roadmap look like??? Art Materials- ink pads, markers #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
âMy weekendâ Last night my daughters asked if we can draw together. Of course! I took out some of the art supplies and we sat down together and independently made art. This makes me happy. Spending time together, a common love of art, and just being. Nobody talked, we were all focused on our creations. My oldest is learning how to create anime drawing and my youngest made a princess. I worked on a journal page. Moments like these make me happy. New family traditions.
âYour wings are unfoldingâ-unknown, found @thorn_and_cactus  When I recently came across this post, I knew I wanted to create artwork about it. I love the idea of the butterfly unfolding its wings. Beautiful. I felt like I can identify with this quote. Transitioning into the next chapter, spreading my wings, morphing into something better. Feels empowering. It also encourages me to continue moving forward and not look back.  Art Materials- ink sprays, watercolor brush pens, marker #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
Telling my Own Story, my way...
âUnseenâ This was a drawing I did a very long time ago. I donât remember the specifics of why I created this, just that the image spoke to me. I could identify with it. As I look back, many years later, I think how sad I must have been. Sometimes when we arenât speaking our truth we seek out images that do. I never verbalized how unhappy I was, although Iâm sure others speculated. It was never spoken about. When I found this sketch a few weeks ago, I debated whether to post it. I decide yes, I want to because I think it might resonate with others. Itâs very lonely when you feel unseen and at the time, I was not ready to verbalize that. I can look at it and feel the sadness of the image and the creator behind it. I empathize for that person. My words today to my former self would be âit will be painful but you will be seen and heard as you continue to grow and heal.â Art Materials- pen #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
âSelf-Reflectionâ What do you see when you look in the mirror? Itâs amazing to see yourself differently from when you began your divorce. The words I choose now are drastically different from where I started. This is growth. This is healing. This is self-care. I am not the same person from a few years ago. That person has shifted and grown into a better version. It feels good to let go of the negativity and replace it with positivity. This was a process, one that took a lot of internal work. I know there was nothing horrible about myself pre or post divorce and I was fine the way I was. However, when your life turns upside down itâs hard not to make certain changes to oneself. This change brings forth a stronger sense of self and identity. I continue to evolve and grow. It feels good to identify yourself with words that offer encouragement and hope. Iâll take it đ Art Materials- markers #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
âHolding onto anger and frustration for things you canât control or change is not a good decisionâ- found on www.mindbootstrap.com Have you ever become so angry or frustrated that you feel like heat is radiating off you? I wanted to create an image of a person appearing like a kettle...slightly bent over with steam coming out. I remember many times during my divorce and afterwards feeling like this. Holding things in until it bursts out. Slowly, I began working and changing focus on me. Realizing that getting angry over things I canât control was not serving me well. I was only hurting myself. As I started to grow and change perspective, my anger began to lessen. I assure you, it feels so much better and lighter now. When you are ready to let go of the anger and frustration it makes space for more positive emotions. Art Materials- markers #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
âItâs okay to transform to a new version of yourselfâ- found on @itsnata I think timing is a huge player in this transformation. You can want it desperately but unless your ready, it wonât happen. You have to do the work in order for a new version of yourself to appear. Itâs worth it and when you are able to let go, it will happen. Continue to do the work and get where you want to be...emotionally, mentally, and physically. Art Materials- colored pencils #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
âLost You. Found Me. â It has taken a long time to get to this revelation. And believe it. Yes, my marriage ended. Although, deep down I knew that was for the best, it didnât take away how painful it would feel. Losing someone you spent 20 years with and facing the facts that neither of us were happy comes with a lot of self reflection. I have worked extremely hard to get to the place I am today. I lost him but found me. At some point, the shift finally happened where my focus was less on the circumstances or my ex-husband and more about me. It was time to build myself back up, piece by piece. I have done a lot of internal work, emotionally healing. I am now working on the physical part of this. I like who I have become and unfortunately, it took my marriage ending to find myself. However, I am grateful to have this clarity and I am finally at peace with myself and my divorce. Art Materials- acrylic paint #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
âYou disrespect yourself when you beg someone for bare minimum things like love, attention, affection, support, reciprocation, etc. Donât do that shit again.â- found on @Poets_Official. This sounds like duh, of course BUT...many people are in relationships like this. This quote hits very close to home for me. It was a HUGE life lesson learned for future relationships. I will never accept bare minimum again. I deserve more and wonât settle for less. Art Materials- colored pencils, markers #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
âCo-parenting isnât asking permission. Itâs about discussing your childâs needs and wants and deciding whatâs best.â-unknown I feel fortunate that co-parenting with my ex-husband has been smooth majority of the time. From the beginning, we have been able to put our own issues aside and make decisions together that are in the best interest of our children. It is not always easy, but we both try to be fair to one another and not put our children in the middle. There is no asking permission, but keeping an open dialogue to discussing our childrenâs needs and wants. I am grateful that this has been part of my divorce journey in co-parenting. Art Materials- ink sprays, newspaper, marker #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
âDonât let anyone rent a space in your head, unless they are a great tenant. â- unknown Block out the people who make you unhappy. Donât give someone the privilege of being in your thoughts if they donât make you feel good. This is easier said than done, but with time and healing it happens. It gets better. Art Materials- scrapbook paper, sketch, marker #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
âI have a thousand things to say to you and a thousand reasons not to.â- unknown  I think if I were to have seen this quote a year ago, the significance of it would have been different. I would have been replaying my thoughts thousands of times and all the different ways I could say it. And most likely, I would have said it.  Fast forward to the present, and I am now on the other side of this quote. I have a thousand reasons why itâs not worth me to say anything anymore. Here a few of my top reasons: 1. I donât replay my thoughts about my marriage or ex-husband the way I once had. 2. It doesnât serve me anymore to vocalize those thoughts; the outcome is we are divorced. 3. I donât want to take up negative headspace thinking those thoughts; thatâs not where I am today. 4. There is no reason to rehash the past; it causes unnecessary tension between us. 5. I am in a different place emotionally. I donât care to hear a response anymore. 6. If itâs not about co-parenting, there is no need to say it. 7.  I want to keep moving forward, so any thoughts I have will remain within and then let go. Bye-Bye.  I think this quote is also about timing and where you are in your healing. Saying things out of anger no longer benefits me. When I have something to say, I ask myself, is it worth it? What am I hoping to achieve by bringing this up? If itâs going to have a negative impact on me, then the answer is let it go. I donât care anymore to share my thousands of things to say. I now have a thousand reasons not to for my well-being and thatâs worth more than saying something that wonât benefit me. Art Materials- markers #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
âBefore you try to fix someone elseâs vibe, make sure youâre not killing your own in the process. Protect your own energy first.â- unknown Something I have learned through my divorce is how essential it is to take care of myself first. Trying to put someone elseâs needs before my own is not something I am willing to repeat. Nobody ever asked me to do that, I did it willingly...but it cost me a lot emotionally. Lesson learned. It was draining and while I was trying to âfixâ someone elseâs energy it also diminished my own. In healing, I have learned that your energy is just as important as someone elseâs and to not neglect that. Art Materials- watercolor brush pens #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
Repost from @divorce.art.heal ⢠âWhen One Door Closes, Another Door Opensâ I love this drawing as much now as I did then âď¸ It may not open as fast as I want it to, but it almost always does eventually happen. I like to believe that all because my marriage did not work out, doesnât mean there isnât another door waiting to open. Maybe this next door will allow me an opportunity that I might not have had. Going through a divorce opened the door to truly working on myself. Learning self-love, independence, and trusting that everything will be okay. The door that closed on my marriage does not mean that another door will open with something more amazing then I thought possible. đ itâs finding the right key, at the right time, to open the door that was meant to be opened... Art Materials- acrylic paint, colored pencils, scrapbooking paper, stamps, gel pens #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcesucks #divorcecoach #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorceparties #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #DivorceForce #divorcecommunity #divorcedonedifferently #divorcechaos #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #divorcehealing #artishealing #mindfulart
âBe the flawed, quirky, unique, beautiful, & magical person that you are!â- unknown  I absolutely love this quote, because itâs not perfect. I am not perfect. I love the idea that you can be unique, quirky, beautiful, and most importantly flawed. After my divorce, it took a long time to want to look inward. Really look at myself and take stock. Who was I? Who am I? Who do I want to be? Through my divorce journey, I have rediscovered myself. I am everything this quote mentions and I love it.  Art Materials- watercolor brush markers and marker #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
âTime is the only thing that fades the pastâ As time passes by wounds heal. They are not as fresh as they once were so I am able to emotionally distance myself from it. Its been two years since my divorce, but it feels like a lifetime ago. My memories slowly seem to fade as time continues to pass by. A lot has changed. I donât look back at my married life from the same perspective. Time and distance has been a gift because I have been able to make peace with some things, let go of others things, and work on healing myself. Art Materials- watercolor brush markers and markers #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
Blurred to Clarity  It is a process when going through a divorce to see things from blurred to clarity. It takes a lot of work to get there. It requires searching within; the good, the bad, and the ugly. In the beginning of my divorce, everything was blurry. My emotions, my relationships, my physical and emotional health. It wasnât until there was some distance from my ex-husband that things started to become more clear. Now when I look back at the beginning, everything seems out of focus. Through therapy and taking the time to work on me, I now see things with a lot of clarity. When you are not close to the sadness and pain anymore, you can see things for how they truly were, not how you had hoped they would be. I prefer the clarity. Art Materials- watercolor brush markers and markers #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
âFreeâ I am free to do as I please. I donât have to ask for permission or make joint decisions...except for the kids and co-parenting. In the beginning, it didnât feel natural to have all this personal freedom. It took time for that to sink in. Itâs a very odd feeling to go from 20 years of discussing things with your partner to then suddenly being independent. I had to slowly be confident in my own decision making. If I am looking for feedback or a second opinion, I ask friends/family. I am free to do as I please now...and I love that. Art Materials- markers #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #DivorceForce #divorcecommunity #divorcedonedifferently #divorcechaos #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression
âItâs okay to not know what comes nextâ In the beginning of my divorce this would have been extremely nerve wracking and anxiety provoking. I am a planner so not knowing what comes next threw me off. With time and healing, I have learned to live in the moment and take one step at a time. Of course, my mind still wonders to the future and the what ifâs, but I try to reframe my thoughts and bring it to the here and now. I donât know what comes next, but I do know it will be okay. Art Materials- markers #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
Wow. Thank you everyone for following me through my divorce journey. Art journaling started as a lifeline for me during my separation. It allowed me to make art with my most private emotions. It was my therapist who planted the seed of one day sharing my journals to maybe help others. When I finally felt ready I created an instagram account and decided on a few things; 1. I would share my art and feelings 2. I would use this platform to share things from my perspective only 3. I would not talk in detail about my ex-husband, this is about me. 4. I would only share things that are related to the divorce community, things I can relate to, and about art. I feel like I have stuck with those points throughout this process. I have met some amazing people through this experience. I have participated in opportunities and networked with others that I would not have otherwise had the chance to do. SoâŚthank you for the 400 followers who continue to join me in this crazy rollercoaster of my divorce journey.
Felt like this was resonating with me today and a good one to repost... Repost from @divorce.art.heal ⢠âShift Happensâ- found on @thegoodquote This caught my attention. Definitely thought it said sh*t happens, lol. Then I re-read it. Shift Happens. I remember when I was going through the process of my divorce thinking, will this ever end? Will I ever move forward? the answer is yes. I am not sure when exactly the shift happened for me, but it gradually did. The divorce has been finalized, co-parenting is in full force, and I am moving forward. And if the quote did say, âsh*t happens, that would be accurate too! đ Art Materials- ink spray, stencils, ink pad, stamp, marker #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorcechaos #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression
âYour direction is more important than your speedâ -unknown Thought this was a great reminder in starting off the new year, for myself and anyone else who needs to hear it. It doesnât matter if you are going at a race car or snails speed, as long as you keep moving forward. This is not a competition and everyone has their own timeline of healing. Work through your pain to get to a better place. Keep going to a place where you can let go, move on, and heal. Art Materials- ink sprays and marker #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
âSnowflakes are angels kisses that say you are never alone.â- Jane Lee Logan Happy New Year!!! đ I came across this quote and it made me smile. As the new year begins, itâs time to reflect and move on. You are stronger than you think you are. Although, you might not be exactly where you want to be, itâs better than staying where you canât grow or feel loved. Take baby steps to heal, even if you are celebrating the new year alone, like I will be doing. Although, I am physically alone today, I am not alone. It helps to remind yourself of that. I am grateful for where I am today and looking forward to what the future brings. Good-bye 2020. Art Materials- acrylic paint #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
âStop crossing oceans for people who wonât jump puddles for youâ-unknown I came across this quote and inside said, âYES!â At some point you become tired of feeling like you are crossing oceans for people who wonât jump puddles for you. This is a tough realization, but the give and take should be reciprocated. As difficult as this can be to accept, itâs a great life lesson to learn. Art Materials- acrylic paint #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
Over the weekend, my youngest child sent me a txt message in the middle of the night at her dads house to let me know that she had a nose bleed. For a minute, I felt sad that I couldnât be there in person to comfort her and lay in bed until she fell back asleep. Then I changed perspective and knew that as much as I wanted to be there, she was also in good hands with her dad. She told me that she woke her dad up, he changed her bedding, cleaned her up, and stayed with her until it stopped. I know that it sucks I couldnât be there in person, but I also know she was being taken care of by her dad. That doesnât negate the fact that itâs okay to feel sadness in that moment, but Iâve learned to not sit in it. Iâm glad she thought of me before she went back to bed and quickly reached out to let me know she was okay. Being divorced has its challenges, like these moments when you are not physically there. However, I am choosing to look at the positive side...she is okay, her dad did everything I would have done, I know she is being taken care of and I still got to reassure her even if it was by phone and iPad. This is the reality of two homes, but I can go to bed knowing her dad did a good job and I am fortunate for that. Art Materials- pens
âRemember if your not speaking it, your storing it, and that get heavy.â- unknown One of the lessons I have learned during my divorce journey is that I canât hold everything within. If I canât speak it, those emotions bottle up and then eventually burst out. In the beginning of my separation, one of the best decisions I made for myself was to seek out therapy. I could not do this alone and I needed help to unzip the feelings I had not spoken for so long. it was the best form of self care that I could have given myself. If you are not letting out your emotions and processing them, it can get quite heavy to carry. Part of healing is letting go and processing what you can do so it does not get repeated. Find an outlet that works for you so you are not doing this alone and internalizing everything. It is a relief when you can speak your truth. Art Materials- markers #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
Journal #7 is completed.
âNew Life...This Wayâ Your life changes after a divorce. You change. You canât go backwards so look for the arrow moving forward. New life, here I come. It doesnât really matter anymore how I got here other than the fact that this is where I am at. I am making the choice to keep moving and follow the sign. Art Materials- markers #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
âThe holidays can make many people feel isolated and very alone. Know that you are loved and supported even if it doesnât feel that wayâ- Bri Luna December was probably the most difficult month for me after my divorce. My family is interfaith so we have celebrations all month long. Post-Divorce, all the holiday celebrations, family get togethers, love, celebrations, happiness, and that was the last thing I wanted to see. I felt alone and intentionally isolated myself because I did not want to witness what others had and what I had lost. Each year became easier. You begin to make new traditions. My perspective this year on the holidays has shifted. I do not feel alone but I know there are so many others that do. I am happy for those that are able to celebrate with their family and friends. I also know how painful it can be for those that canât. You will get through this holiday season and one day you too will be able to have a shift in perspective and enjoy it again. Thinking of everyone today and sending love. đ Art Materials- brush pens, sketches, markers #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
âYou are enough. You are so enough, It is unbelievable how enough you areâ- found on wordsonimages.com Thought this was a great reminder for anyone who needs to hear this today. YOU ARE ENOUGH. Learn to place your value within yourself, not through someone else. Repeat it as many times as you need to hear it. Art Materials- ink sprays, scrapbook paper, sketch, marker, water soluble crayons
âKickinâ It, Transformation styleâ This is the feeling when you are experiencing a transformation and it feels positive. All the hard work you have gone through to get to this point. The work isnât done, but it feels amazing when you finally reach a point when you internally know you have arrived at the next step. I donât want this feeling to go away. I want to continue to work through âstuffâ and grow. I look back at my art journals and can visually see the change in my art, my emotions. I have endured a lot to get here, to get to this headspace. I feel like I am kickinâ it, transformation style. Art Materials- ink sprays, sketches, marker #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
âAccept your past without regrets. Handle the present with confidence. Face your future without fearâ- unknown Love this one! This is not something that happens quickly, but itâs meaningful when you Are able to recognize Itâs truth. Of course I have some regrets, but I am learning to accept them because it canât be changed. I would like to believe that I am exactly where I am meant to be right now. I am stronger than I always give myself credit for and am learning to be confident in my own skin. As I look back at when I started my divorce journey, I have conquered so many of my fears. I am learning that the future canât be dictated but what may or may not happen and being fearful of that will only hinder me. This quote is a great reminder to breathe and take one step at a time in accepting the past, living in the present, and being open to the future. Art materials- brush pens #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
âItâs not who you are that holds you back; itâs who you think you are notâ- unknown I think this is such a powerful message during a transformation. Letting go of those negative voices inside your head that prevent you from being your best self. Say good-bye to the illusion of who you THINK you should or should not be. Believe in yourself that you can obtain what you want, do the work to get there. What usually prevents me from moving forward is the internal belief that I canât get there. I have had to deconstruct these beliefs and reframe my thoughts. I can be whoever I want to be, as long as I donât believe that I canât. Art Materials- ink sprays, stencil, marker #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #divorcerecovery #divorcecommunity #divorceproceedings #divorcedmoms #divorcee #divorcecoaching #divorcees #divorceeducation #survivingdivorce #healingafterdivorce #lowconflictdivorce #divorcesurvivor #artjournaling #arttherapy #arttherapydivorce #mixedmediajournaling #artexpression #movingon
