@breakupandshine

@breakupandshine

Break Up and Shine ⭐️ Counsellor and Moving On Coach 🙌 Author 📚 Creator of #stopfocusingonyourex 30 day online course 💫💗

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With the start of a new year, you might be thinking about dating again or even hoping 2021 might be the year to discover new and lasting love. But do you know if you're really ready? Read my article on rebound relationships where I share: ~Why they are problematic ~How soon after a break-up is considered "rebound"? ~How to tell if you are heading for (or in one) ~Can they become "real" relationships? ~The importance of self-awareness in finding new love It's all in there, so if you are thinking of getting back to dating, read this first! Link for the Break Up and Shine blog is in the Bio 🙂💗

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How much has faith or spirituality been part of your break-up healing? I’m not a traditionally religious person (and actively rejected restrictive faith teachings as a teen) but I’ve always had a sense of something “bigger than me” working in my life, available to give me support and guidance when I get quiet and listen for it. I think of it as my soul which is always in connection for what’s in my best interests, in a way that my overthinking and worrying mind cannot do. Some people describe it as inner wisdom or intuition, some as universal connection, some as God. When I tune into it I am led to new opportunities or inspiring ideas. I trust that things are going to be ok, that life was meant to have purpose and it brings a sense of relief and a feeling that I don’t have to do it all alone. Prior to any healing tool, method or process which got me through my break-up, faith that my soul was utterly rooting for me to get through this, was my driving force. I read an amazing book called “Spirit Junkie” by @gabbybernstein about a year after my marriage ended, and all the things I already felt to be true for me, fell into place. It’s a book I recommend on my Break-up and Divorce Reading List. Whatever “spirituality” means to you, I encourage you to let it in as part of your healing journey. Why? Because it takes away half the painful workload when you believe that deep down you are supported and loved by life! 💗 Painting “Chamuel” by Marissa Walter

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Happy Monday 🙂 Each week I invite you to reflect on a question or statement to help you see things in a different way. Being able to shift your perspective is a powerful factor in healing and moving forward. Notice what comes up for you as you explore this idea, and feel free to share in the comments. Tip! These perspective-shift questions make great journaling prompts for helping with your moving on process. You can find the full collection over at my website in “Free Resources”. Click the link in the Bio 💗

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Because I know what it's like to work to recover from a broken heart, I recognise and appreciate the struggles that all of you are going through. And I recognise that every emotional shift or breakthrough, however small, is an amazing win. And I know that often these small wins are private and maybe you have nobody to congratulate you on the challenge you made it through this week or this month. So I'm telling you that I know what it takes to turn things around, and if you've managed to do that, then I am in awe of you! Keep going, life is full of possibility when you are willing to believe in yourself 💗 P.s the sticky label is going on my laptop as a reminder 😍

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Happy Monday 🙂 Each week I invite you to reflect on a question or statement to help you see things in a different way. Being able to shift your perspective is a powerful factor in healing and moving forward. Notice what comes up for you as you explore this idea, and feel free to share in the comments. Tip! These perspective-shift questions make great journaling prompts for helping with your moving on process. You can find the full collection over at my website in “Free Resources”. Click the link in the Bio 💗

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She’s up and ready to be filled in 😍 Thank you so much for bringing the wall planner back this year @leonie_dawson 🙏💗

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It’s never easy to sum up a whole year in a few snapshots but here is my attempt. Farewell 2020 you have been a teacher, a challenge, a comfort, a source of pain and an abundance of healing. Here’s to bringing on new adventures, love, peace and joy for 2021 💗 To read my latest blog post on using the New Year energy to help you move on, click the link in the Bio 🙂

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Real progress in moving on from your break-up will come from your actions rather than just your thoughts. Healing needs a shift in mindset, but it also requires actually doing something different, such as: ⭐️ Stopping behaviours which keep you stuck. ⭐️Continuing more of the things which make you happy. ⭐️Starting new positive and healthy actions which will move you forward. My 30 day online programme Stop Focusing On Your Ex is the perfect gift to yourself to begin the New Year. It guides you through practical strategies which prioritise YOU and shift your focus towards actively moving on. “I really do feel that I healed and was ready to move on so much faster because of Marissa’s help” ~ N.P. If you’re ready for change, click the link in the Bio for full details 💗

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Happy Monday 🙂 Each week I invite you to reflect on a question or statement to help you see things in a different way. Being able to shift your perspective is a powerful factor in healing and moving forward. Notice what comes up for you as you explore this idea, and feel free to share in the comments. Tip! These perspective-shift questions make great journaling prompts for helping with your moving on process. You can find the full collection over at my website in “Free Resources”. Click the link in the Bio 💗

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Today is my 47th birthday! When I woke up this time last year I was in a relationship and in love. This year I woke up with no relationship, but with my kids bringing me breakfast and gifts, a plan to spend time with gorgeous friends and feeling love of a different kind. Who knows what the next birthday will look like? I have no idea but I know not to take for granted the people who matter, because they have got me through some tough times this year 💗

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Happy Monday 🙂 Each week I invite you to reflect on a question or statement to help you see things in a different way. Being able to shift your perspective is a powerful factor in healing and moving forward. Notice what comes up for you as you explore this idea, and feel free to share in the comments. Tip! These perspective-shift questions make great journaling prompts for helping with your moving on process. You can find the full collection over at my website in “Free Resources”. Click the link in the Bio 💗

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Today I have celebrated Christmas Day early with my kids as they will be with their dad this year. Christmas is not always what we think it will look like after a break-up but you can make it your own and make it special! ❤️

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In just two weeks from today it will be the start of 2021 and, let's face it, most of us will be delighted to see the back of 2020! I’m inviting you to write yourself a vision for next year. 💗What are your hopes and dreams? 💗What would you like to achieve? 💗How would you like to feel in 2021? Dream big. Don't think about what's possible from the limited view that you currently have. Instead, write about what you would like if opportunities were endless! It's good for our minds to bask in positivity, possibility and hope! Feel free to share in the comments!

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This can be one of the toughest times of the year, whether your break-up was recent or distant. Head over to my blog where I share my post about how you can support yourself with the challenges that Christmas brings. Click the link in Bio 💗

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Happy Monday 🙂 Each week I invite you to reflect on a question or statement to help you see things in a different way. Being able to shift your perspective is a powerful factor in healing and moving forward. Notice what comes up for you as you explore this idea, and feel free to share in the comments. Tip! These perspective-shift questions make great journaling prompts for helping with your moving on process. You can find the full collection over at my website in “Free Resources”. Click the link in the Bio 💗

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After a frustrating couple of weeks with my injured back, I’m finally running again 🙌 Just in time to counteract my mince pie addiction 😬😆

@breakupandshine

Happy Monday 🙂 Each week I invite you to reflect on a question or statement to help you see things in a different way. Being able to shift your perspective is a powerful factor in healing and moving forward. Notice what comes up for you as you explore this idea, and feel free to share in the comments. Tip! These perspective-shift questions make great journaling prompts for helping with your moving on process. You can find the full collection over at my website in “Free Resources”. Click the link in the Bio 💗

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Can you get quiet and hear the voice inside you that knows what you need? When I was at one of my lowest points after my marriage broke up, I could not see a way forward. I was exhausted with emotion, drained from overthinking and part of me still hoped my husband would come to his senses and return to our family. I spent a long time obsessing about the “what ifs” or whether there was a way we could get our life back on track. I recall the day I was utterly sick of how I was feeling. I knew that I needed to think another way but I didn’t know how. So in a moment of desperation, I called on something bigger than myself. I am not religious, but I can only describe what I did as praying. I quietly sat on my sofa and asked out loud “WHAT DO I NEED TO DO TO GET THROUGH THIS?” and the answer came in immediately and clearly like a voice in my head. It simply said “Save Yourself”. Nothing more than that, but it was the answer I needed (even though I didn't particularly like it). I realised I had to stop obsessing about my ex and why he did what he did. I had to stop hoping there might be hope for us. I had to stop thinking of "our" future and start believing in "my" future. My "Save Yourself" realisation did not instantly erase my grief and pain, of course. I still had so much work to do to let go of my marriage, but I trusted that the message was the truth. I recognised that choosing to invest my time and energy into my future was the only way to lift my deep despair. The whole way through the healing process, whenever things got really tough I would recall that voice (was it my own voice? my guardian angel? Who knows?) telling me very clearly what I needed to do to proceed. "Save Yourself" was the driving force to focus on myself, love myself and create a better life for myself. I'm so grateful for that message, but I could only hear it because I got quiet and asked what I needed to do. When you are immersed in the noise and mind-chatter of grief, it is really hard to access that wisdom that lives deep inside and knows what you need. Can you sit in silence right now and just ask for guidance for what you need to do next? 💗

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Advent Challenge Day 4 - Love or Let Go of a Tradition Do you have any Christmas traditions that were particularly meaningful to your relationship? Now is the time to decide what you want to do with it this year. You have 2 choices: 1) Embrace it by yourself: Recognise that you don't need a partner in order to enjoy certain things, just because previously you did them together. You're a person in your own right and are entitled to still love the traditions that you used to do. 2) Let it go: If the tradition feels too energetically connected to your partner and this brings too much pain, then release it. You don't need to feel guilt or self-judgement, just decide you won't go to that place or buy that thing anymore. Declutter it from your physical space or emotional energy. Decide today what you would like to do with a particular tradition that holds meaning for you, and share in the comments below 💗👇 If you want to do the Break Up and Shine #adventchallenge in my Facebook group, click the link in the Bio to join 🎄🙂💗

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I’ve been trialling a new type of one-off session to help people pinpoint exactly where they are stuck with moving on, and give clear next steps. They have been revealing, emotional and really effective for those taking part. Watch this space! Full details on the new Break-Up Breakthrough sessions is coming soon 🙂💗

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Current work position: Bed! When life throws you an unexpected obstacle, take what you can from it. Just as I was really getting comfortable with running, my back went into muscle spasm on Monday while doing a bit of yoga 😬 I’ve had this type of injury before and while it was very painful, the thing that upset me most at first was the massive inconvenience of it and missing my exercise. I’m on day 3 and the muscle stiffness is easing thankfully, but the biggest win for me has been finding the gold in this situation. ~Yes, it hurts, but I realise I’m fitter than previously so it’s healing much faster than when this has happened before. ~I’ve been forced to use my core muscles to move and so have a nice 6 pack developing 😂 ~I’ve managed to be productive with my work because I can’t get distracted by housework. ~Despite their usual reluctance, I really can rely on my kids to help out when it comes down to necessity. ~I’ve made huge inroads through the book I need to finish for book club next week! ~I’ve discovered an inspiring podcast from @auld_stock and am loving it (thanks @cazmoore72 😊) ~I don’t need to feel guilty about watching Dawson’s Creek in the middle of the day 😜 We don’t often get enforced downtime and I’m grateful it’s nothing more than a pulled back muscle. I felt gutted this morning that I couldn’t run, but I will run again soon and will be patient until then. Mostly, I will try to take lessons away from this and the biggest one for me is, will I listen to my intuition more? For weeks I kept telling myself “I must do hamstring stretches” and then not doing them 😳 I’m going to spend more time honouring my body and my inner voice 💗

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Day 2 - Plan your Christmas If you haven't already done so, make sure you create a plan for Christmas. Feelings of loneliness and anxiety can start to ramp up throughout December, if you don't know what you are doing over the Christmas period. This year may be particularly difficult with Covid restrictions, depending on where you are in the world, so it' even more important to give it a bit of thought early on. 🎄Will you be by yourself and is that ok with you? 🎄If you have kids, will you be with them or are your children with their other parent (as mine will be)? 🎄Do you have family or friends who would love to see you? Can you reach out to them even if they have not yet offered? 🎄 If you are going to be completely alone, what kind of day would you like to plan for yourself? Start to make a plan today, even if it can't all be confirmed right now. Don't leave it and allow feelings of sadness and despair to build in the coming weeks. Share in the comments below - you may give someone ideas for their own plan! 💗 Want to do the challenge in my Facebook group? Click the link in the Bio 🙂 #adventchallenge

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There's no question that this time of year can be tough after a break-up. This year I'm setting a positive challenge to help make this period meaningful and uplifting for you, after what has been a painful and challenging year. I'll be setting you a simple daily task starting today, and every day up to Christmas Eve! If you're not a member of my Facebook group already, come and join us by clicking the link in the Bio 💗🎄

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Happy Monday 🙂 Each week I invite you to reflect on a question or statement to help you see things in a different way. Being able to shift your perspective is a powerful factor in healing and moving forward. Notice what comes up for you as you explore this idea, and feel free to share in the comments. Tip! These perspective-shift questions make great journaling prompts for helping with your moving on process. You can find the full collection over at my website in “Free Resources”. Click the link in the Bio 💗

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In our rush to heal, fix or achieve after break-up, it’s sometimes difficult to see how much progress we’ve actually made until we look back at where we were. I started running this year, and I’ve been so focused on getting faster and going further, that I often don’t stop to appreciate how far I’ve already come. Running 5km 2 or 3 times a week would have been impossible 6 months ago, but now it feels normal. When it comes to break-up healing do the same. Notice your new resilience; how the memories which would have sent you spiralling to grief, no longer impact you. Celebrate your ability to make future plans in a way that felt impossible 6 weeks or 6 months ago. Recognise where you’ve let go, changed and grown. Acknowledge your wins. Accept that there may be setbacks but don’t make up limiting stories about them. Honour that things are sometimes hard, but in the words of @glennondoyle “We can do hard things”. Look at what you’ve done up to now and feel proud 💗

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Happy Monday 🙂 Each week I invite you to reflect on a question or statement to help you see things in a different way. Being able to shift your perspective is a powerful factor in healing and moving forward. Notice what comes up for you as you explore this idea, and feel free to share in the comments. Tip! These perspective-shift questions make great journaling prompts for helping with your moving on process. You can find the full collection over at my website in “Free Resources”. Click the link in the Bio 💗

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Last night my lovely friends and I partied like it’s 2020: Dressed up on top, pyjamas on the bottom 😆 #aintnopartylikeazoomcallparty #thankfulforfriends

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Happy Monday 🙂 Each week I invite you to reflect on a question or statement to help you see things in a different way. Being able to shift your perspective is a powerful factor in healing and moving forward. Notice what comes up for you as you explore this idea, and feel free to share in the comments. Tip! These perspective-shift questions make great journaling prompts for helping with your moving on process. You can find the full collection over at my website in “Free Resources”. Click the link in the Bio 💗

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Have you found yourself asking this question? One of the main reasons we get stuck and unable to move on after a break-up or divorce is because our focus generally tends to be on the things we have no control over. Real progress in moving on comes from your actions as well as your thoughts. Healing needs a shift in mindset, but it also requires actually doing something different, such as: ⭐️Stopping behaviours which keep you stuck. ⭐️Continuing more of the things which make you happy. ⭐️Starting new positive and healthy actions which will move you forward. I launched my 30 day online programme "Stop Focusing On Your Ex", in response to people asking for help in how to begin taking action. The course guides you through dozens of practical strategies which prioritise YOU and shift your focus towards actively moving on. “I really do feel that I healed and was ready to move on so much faster because of Marissa’s help” ~ N.P. "Reading your advice and watching your videos is like talking to a friend when a wave hits you or you need a reminder that it will be ok" ~ J.T. If you are feeling stuck and unsure about how to take the most effective steps to start moving on, this will help you. The programme is packed with valuable content for $77. For full details, click the link in the Bio 🙂

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A little weekend challenge for anyone who finds themselves uncomfortable or anxious in their own company 💗 #enjoyyourowncompany

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Happy Monday 🙂 Each week I invite you to reflect on a question or statement to help you see things in a different way. Being able to shift your perspective is a powerful factor in healing and moving forward. Notice what comes up for you as you explore this idea, and feel free to share in the comments. Tip! These perspective-shift questions make great journaling prompts for helping with your moving on process. You can find the full collection over at my website in “Free Resources”. Click the link in the Bio 💗

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Doing the work isn’t always beautiful and positive, but it’s necessary! This was me this morning, exhausted but so much lighter after an epic round of EFT tapping on some break-up emotions, which have been triggering for me over the past couple of weeks. It was important for me not to judge myself for having these feelings - emotions are never right or wrong. Painful ones are just indicators that something needs acknowledging and healing. I needed to get to the root of it, and through my tapping session, I did. Anger, sadness and insecurity came up. I cried and swore and punched pillows 😜 Then the relief came; I had uncovered what was stuck, and released it from my energy. Then I meditated for 10 minutes and felt beautifully calm. I did a bit of journaling on what had come up. In letting go of something, I gained clarity and space for what I want next. I’m sharing this because I want you to know that it’s completely normal to have some situation, event or buried emotion come up and trigger old grief feelings, even when you’re doing fine. Even when you are helping other people with their break-ups! When you deal with it instead of squashing it down, it passes so much more quickly. Then you open up space to do all of the beautiful, positive work and it will feel so good! 💗

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Happy Monday 🙂 Each week I invite you to reflect on a question or statement to help you see things in a different way. Being able to shift your perspective is a powerful factor in healing and moving forward. Notice what comes up for you as you explore this idea, and feel free to share in the comments. Tip! These perspective-shift questions make great journaling prompts for helping with your moving on process. You can find the full collection over at my website in “Free Resources”. Click the link in the Bio 💗

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😔 “Why can’t I stop thinking about my break-up?” 😔 “Why can’t I let go?” 😔 “I understand what I should be doing to move on but it’s too hard!” I created a series of 3 videos for my Facebook group, to help answer the biggest problem I get asked about. I’m also sharing the videos on the “Free Resources” page on my website. So click the link in the Bio to watch them and learn how to help yourself 🙂

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If you want to start thinking differently about your divorce, but believe it's not possible or you don't have a clue where to start, think again! When you sign up for my Break Up and Shine Newsletter you will receive regular inspiration and updates on supportive content to start shifting the way you feel. And to start you off, you'll get this free downloadable guide to help you: "10 Ways To Change How To Change How You Feel About Your Break-Up" Click the “subscribe” link in the Bio 🙂

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One of the main reasons we get stuck and unable to move on after a break-up is because our focus generally tends to be on the things we have no control over. To be happier you have to start to shift that focus. These are a few of many, many things I did after my divorce to let go of the past and start making my life about me. In my 30 day online programme “Stop Focusing On Your Ex” I guide you through dozens of strategies which will: 💗Give your mind a rest from your break-up thoughts 💗Break the habit of fixating on what you can’t control 💗Boost your self-care 💗Allow you to feel excited about the future For all the details of how this course can help you too, click the link in the Bio 😊

@breakupandshine

Happy Monday 🙂 Each week I invite you to reflect on a question or statement to help you see things in a different way. Being able to shift your perspective is a powerful factor in healing and moving forward. Notice what comes up for you as you explore this idea, and feel free to share in the comments. Tip! These perspective-shift questions make great journaling prompts for helping with your moving on process. You can find the full collection over at my website in “Free Resources”. Click the link in the Bio 💗